想找一个十年，二十年，三十年，四十年 都会对我很好的人。 :)
终究还是输了。 无可否认的高招。
Monday, May 26, 2014
Saturday, April 20, 2013
cockroach theory
Facebook:
At a restaurant, a cockroach suddenly flew from somewhere and sat on
a lady. She started screaming out of fear. With a panic stricken
face and trembling voice, she started jumping, with both her hands
desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach.
Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group also got
panicky.
The lady finally managed to push the cockroach away but ...it landed
on another lady in the group.
Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the
drama.
The waiter rushed forward to their rescue.
In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter.
The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behavior of
the cockroach on his shirt.
When he was confident enough, he grabbed it with his fingers and
threw it out of the restaurant.
Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind
picked up a few thoughts and started wondering, was the cockroach
responsible for their histrionic behavior?
If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed?
He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos.
It is not the cockroach, but the inability of the ladies to handle
the disturbance caused by the cockroach that disturbed the ladies.
I realized that, it is not the shouting of my father or my boss or
my wife that disturbs me, but it's my inability to handle the
disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me.
It's not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my
inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that
disturbs me.
More than the problem, it's my reaction to the problem that creates
chaos in my life.
Lessons learnt from the story:
I understood, I should not react in life.
I should always respond.
The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded.
Reactions are always instinctive whereas responses are always well
thought of, just and right to save a situation from going out of
hands, to avoid cracks in relationship, to avoid taking decisions in
anger, anxiety, stress or hurry.
Have a nice day.
At a restaurant, a cockroach suddenly flew from somewhere and sat on
a lady. She started screaming out of fear. With a panic stricken
face and trembling voice, she started jumping, with both her hands
desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach.
Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group also got
panicky.
The lady finally managed to push the cockroach away but ...it landed
on another lady in the group.
Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the
drama.
The waiter rushed forward to their rescue.
In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter.
The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behavior of
the cockroach on his shirt.
When he was confident enough, he grabbed it with his fingers and
threw it out of the restaurant.
Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind
picked up a few thoughts and started wondering, was the cockroach
responsible for their histrionic behavior?
If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed?
He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos.
It is not the cockroach, but the inability of the ladies to handle
the disturbance caused by the cockroach that disturbed the ladies.
I realized that, it is not the shouting of my father or my boss or
my wife that disturbs me, but it's my inability to handle the
disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me.
It's not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my
inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that
disturbs me.
More than the problem, it's my reaction to the problem that creates
chaos in my life.
Lessons learnt from the story:
I understood, I should not react in life.
I should always respond.
The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded.
Reactions are always instinctive whereas responses are always well
thought of, just and right to save a situation from going out of
hands, to avoid cracks in relationship, to avoid taking decisions in
anger, anxiety, stress or hurry.
Have a nice day.
Wednesday, April 10, 2013
Sunday, April 7, 2013
LOVE
From Facebook and something worth noting.. :)
What Love means to a 4-8 year old: A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8 year-olds, ’What does love mean?’ The answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined
See what you think:
‘When my grandmother got arthritis , she couldn’t bend over and paint her toenails anymore.. So my grandfather does it for her all the time , even when his hands got arthritis too. That’s love.’ – Rebecca, age 8
‘When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different.You just know that your name is safe in their mouth.’ – Billy, age 4
‘Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other.’ – Karl, age 5
‘Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs.’ –Chrissy, age 6
‘Love is what makes you smile when you’re tired.’ -Terri, age 4
‘Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him , to make sure the taste is OK.’ – Danny, age 7
‘Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing , you still want to be together and you talk more. My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss’ – Emily, age 8
‘Love is what’s in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen.’ –Bobby, age 7
‘If you want to learn to love better , you should start with a friend who you hate” –Nikka, age 6
‘Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt , then he wears it everyday..’ –Noelle, age 7
‘Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well.’ –Tommy, age 6
‘During my piano recital , I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling. He was the only one doing that. I wasn’t scared anymore.’ – Cindy, age 8
‘My mommy loves me more than anybody. You don’t see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night.’ –Clare, age 6
‘Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken.’ –Elaine, age 5
‘Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford.’ –Chris, age 7
‘Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day.’ -Mary Ann, age 4
‘I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones.’ –Lauren, age 4
‘When you love somebody , your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you.’ - Karen, age 7
‘Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn’t think it’s gross..’ –Mark, age 6
‘You really shouldn’t say ‘I love you’ unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget.’ –Jessica, age 8
The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife. Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman’s yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there. When his Mother asked what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said, ‘Nothing , I just helped him cry’.
What Love means to a 4-8 year old: A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8 year-olds, ’What does love mean?’ The answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined
See what you think:
‘When my grandmother got arthritis , she couldn’t bend over and paint her toenails anymore.. So my grandfather does it for her all the time , even when his hands got arthritis too. That’s love.’ – Rebecca, age 8
‘When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different.You just know that your name is safe in their mouth.’ – Billy, age 4
‘Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other.’ – Karl, age 5
‘Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs.’ –Chrissy, age 6
‘Love is what makes you smile when you’re tired.’ -Terri, age 4
‘Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him , to make sure the taste is OK.’ – Danny, age 7
‘Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing , you still want to be together and you talk more. My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss’ – Emily, age 8
‘Love is what’s in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen.’ –Bobby, age 7
‘If you want to learn to love better , you should start with a friend who you hate” –Nikka, age 6
‘Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt , then he wears it everyday..’ –Noelle, age 7
‘Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well.’ –Tommy, age 6
‘During my piano recital , I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling. He was the only one doing that. I wasn’t scared anymore.’ – Cindy, age 8
‘My mommy loves me more than anybody. You don’t see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night.’ –Clare, age 6
‘Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken.’ –Elaine, age 5
‘Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford.’ –Chris, age 7
‘Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day.’ -Mary Ann, age 4
‘I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones.’ –Lauren, age 4
‘When you love somebody , your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you.’ - Karen, age 7
‘Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn’t think it’s gross..’ –Mark, age 6
‘You really shouldn’t say ‘I love you’ unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget.’ –Jessica, age 8
The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife. Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman’s yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there. When his Mother asked what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said, ‘Nothing , I just helped him cry’.
Monday, January 28, 2013
Saturday, October 27, 2012
我不許你哭 :)
在很久很久以前，有一個國王。他把他的國家治理的非常好，國家不大，但百姓們豐衣足食，安居樂業，十分幸福。
國王有三位美麗可愛的小公主，三位小公主們從生下來就具有一種神奇的魔力，當她們哭泣的時候，落下的眼淚會化作一顆顆晶瑩剔透的鑽石，價值連城。
有一天，國王發覺自己年事已高，自己的國家還沒有人可以托付，公主們也沒人照顧。于是昭告天下：
“衆所周知，我有三位的公主，她們每個人都擁有舉世無雙的美貌，而且她們的眼淚可以化作昂貴的鑽石，一個月後，我將爲她們召集所有的優秀的男人，讓她們挑選自己心儀的丈夫————被選中的人將有機會繼承我的國家和財富！”
一個月後，國王的城堡裏擠滿了來自世界各地的王子，騎士和富豪之子。一個個都是英俊潇灑，器宇不凡。
他們自信滿滿的圍在王宮裏，等待著公主們的到來。
正午的時候，國王帶著他的三位公主們來到宮殿。爲了表示對遠道而來的客人的歡迎，大公主在現場爲衆人唱了一首歌，嗓音清澈，猶如天籁；二公主在現場爲衆人跳了一支舞，步伐輕盈，身段美妙。而最年幼的小公主，對著衆人淺淺的一笑，就躲在國王的身後再也不肯出來。
國王尴尬的解釋道，請大家不要介意，小公主自從生下來後就沒有說過話，而且很怕生人。
爲了博取公主們的親睐，大家紛紛展示了自己的長處，有的當場寫詩作畫送給大公主，有的爲二公主表演劍法和馬術，有的拿出世間少有的奇珍異寶獻給小公主。
大公主和二公主都很開心，也漸漸有了自己的決定，只有小公主靜靜的依然躲在國王的身後。
大公主最後選擇了一個王子，那個英俊的王子對她許諾說，會爲她征服全世界，在每座城堡上刻下她的名字；二公主最後選擇了富豪之子，那個聰明的男孩對她保證說，他會賺很多錢，爲她建立一座世界上最華麗的宮殿，裏面擺滿美麗的奇珍異寶；
小公主平靜的看著那些人，搖了搖頭。正在國王准備宣布結果時，從人群中走出一個年輕的牧羊人，他徑直走到小公主跟前，在她耳邊說了一句話。小公主忽然笑的很燦爛，她毫不猶豫的挽住了牧羊人的手。
就這樣，三個公主都有了自己的伴侶。
五年過去了。。。
大公主的丈夫用眼淚變成的鑽石招兵買馬，四處征戰，百戰百勝，每一座被他征服的城堡上，真的全都刻上了大公主的名字。大公主的名字，變得家喻戶曉。她覺得自己很幸福。
二公主的丈夫用眼淚變成的鑽石作爲成本，生意越做越大，當然，生意做得很大之後，也就不需要鑽石了。他不愧是商人之子，簡直是天生的商人，很快，就積累了海量的財富，雖然還沒有建造出世界上最最豪華的宮殿，但是二公主也已經很心滿意足了。她覺得自己很幸福。
小公主自從那天跟著牧羊人離開國王的城堡，就開始周遊世界。後來他們找到一個山清水秀的世外桃源，就定居了下來。
牧羊人花了半個月的時間，用木頭和稻草搭建了一個大房子，又做了很多家具。他們在房子的後面種了很多蔬菜，在菜地的周圍，親手做了一排柵欄。小公主把她見到的好看的花，都移植到了自己的小花園裏，雖然不知道這些小野花叫什麽名字，可每天看到它們就會很開心。傍晚的時候，他們會坐在湖邊釣魚，或者數星星。
他們一直很窮，但是他們生活的非常開心。小公主漸漸地開始開口說話，她只對牧羊人一個人說，什麽都說，天上的雲彩啊，河裏的魚啊，樹上的鳥窩啊，頭上的蝴蝶啊一天到晚叽叽喳喳說個不停。牧羊人常常坐在湖邊，安靜的聽她講故事，一直到小公主講著講著，累得睡著了，把她抱回房間。
國王病危，他派人找回了三個公主和她們的丈夫。
他很驚訝的發現，小公主夫婦穿著幹淨整齊卻打滿補丁的衣服，他好奇他們爲什麽這麽貧窮。要知道，小公主隨便一滴眼淚就足夠買一家衣服店。
牧羊人說，因爲我從來不讓她哭泣。國王立刻決定，把王位傳給牧羊人。
也許每個人對于幸福都有自己的理解，答案從來都不是唯一的。但是只有牧羊人懂得什麽是珍惜。
國王問小公主，當年牧羊人跟你說了什麽話？
小公主說：“他在我耳邊說，即使你的眼淚可以化作最昂貴的鑽石，我甯願貧困潦倒一生，也不許你哭。”
最珍貴的眼淚，不是能化作鑽石的眼淚，而是不會落下的眼淚，因爲珍惜你的人，不會讓你哭。我沒法承諾能給你太多的東西，因爲未來不確定，因爲我們不確定。但我會告訴你，我不許你哭。♥
Thursday, August 9, 2012
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